a line from my latest read "Three cups of Tea". It's the story of an American climber turned humanitarian in remote northern Pakistan and Afghanistan. Very intriguing book and a good read. The last few chapters will get under your skin a bit if you are in the military as it tends towards villifying our actions in Afghanistan and Iraq but he does balance it out by saying his visit to Pentagon showed him they were the laptop Army and the rest weren't,etc.
So what's my point? That the reality is we may have missed key opportunities to win the hearts of Afghani's etc. Indeed ignorance on both our parts is sad - anger and ignorance is dangerous.
Of course the true enemy is Satan who enjoys the ignorance of God, others and himself.
Read the book.